You’d never know it, though, judging by most of what people put on the internet. I love the saying, “Don’t compare your behind-the-scenes footage to someone else’s highlight reel.” The world wide web is an incredible venue to create and display the version of ourselves we wish existed. Even though we are aware that what we read or see isn’t the whole truth, sometimes the GOOD of other people can make us feel BAD about our own messy reality.
That’s the topic of a post I read today from Elizabeth over at Delightfully Tacky. She nailed it. Here are a couple of lines that I enjoyed:
“Like… it’s weird to me that we have to clarify that our lives aren’t perfect. I suppose it can become hard to see that, when we’re bombarded with beautiful photos of fun parties, macarons, fancy cocktails, pretty dresses, and craft projects that always turn out wonderfully. But in reality you don’t know a single person with a perfect life, so why does the internet make you think that such a person exists?”
“Hi, I’m not going to instagram my migranes or my cry-hangover puffy red face, because ew. That doesn’t mean those things don’t happen. Of course those things happen because I’m a real person and you’re a real person and so is everyone else.”
And a line that struck a nerve with me personally:
“Some choose only to share positivity, which can have the effect of making a person look like they have a perfect life. But before you harbor jealousy, envy, and even hate in your own heart towards a person you perceive to have a perfect life, remember that they are a human being just like you.”
Do you remember when I wrote about “keeping it real”? Someone had made me lose confidence in my writing by suggesting that focusing on the good stuff is somehow fake and insincere. Afterward, as I wrote that post, my resolve in my perspective only strengthened:
The point of the usual bliss is not to pretend my life is perfect, or offer a façade of what I’m like or how my life really is. I’m a mess, just like everybody else! I think by now, my readers have gotten to know more than just the shiny side of me. It’s my choice to focus on the good stuff.
Do yourself a favor and read Elizabeth’s post. It’s a fabulous reminder that no one is perfect, regardless of what they write about or photograph or share with the world. For every perfect batch of cookies, there’s a pile of burned ones in the garbage. For every photo of a laughing child, there are 20 in the “deleted” folder of a tantrum. I am guilty of sharing a lot of blissful moments here, but I know that the messy parts make the good stuff BETTER. The missteps along the way make the victory sweeter in the end. I share a lot here. Sometimes I let you in on my failures and fears, and sometimes you’re only going to get my smiles.
On the eve of another weekly batch of extra shiny happy BLISS BITS, I hope you choose to seek out what makes you smile, too- even if it’s not the whole truth. Cheers to burned cupcakes, unmade beds, blurry photos, and a happy life.
**images from Pinterest**